How to Write a Eulogy When You Don't Know Where to Start

Simple structure helps enormously when writing under emotional strain.

1. Start with how you knew the person and your relationship, briefly.
2. Include one or two specific, vivid memories rather than a full biography.
3. It's okay to acknowledge difficulty or grief directly rather than only celebrating.
4. Keep it to 3-5 minutes when spoken — write it, then read it aloud to check timing.
5. Ask a close friend or family member to review it beforehand if you're able.

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